I have, unfortunately, had to say goodbye to a few friends within the past 2 years. Some people just aren't good to be around. It's like their negative energy just sucks all the happiness out of you. I refuse to be around that. I like being happy. There's so much in this world that keeps me smiling. And I think that everyone needs to try seeing the good in the bad more often.
I've dated a lot of really shitty people the past 2 years.. this past year was full of them. My friends know, for the most part, who the biggest problem was for me this past year. I was more in love with her than I've been with anyone in my entire life, and I often questioned why. How can you be in love with someone who has no regard for your feelings, constantly lies to you, manipulates every situation to make you come out the bad guy, says she loves you but then goes and kisses your guy friend a few times, and who you barely get to see? Then again, how can you not be in love with someone who says things that make your knees weak, kisses you in ways that make your heart melt and makes your stomach do flip flops, apologizes to your mother for treating you like crap the last time they were around (knowing that she highly dislikes you for screwing her daughter over), does cute things like squeeze your hand and whispers "I love you" in your ear while you're in a dark theatre, and have the perfect day of a nice walk and several hours of just straight talk about your relationship, no bullshit, just this is how i feel, this is what i want, etc etc, before asking you to be her girlfriend again.
I have learned to stay away from dating crappy women though. I mean.. stupidest mistake of 2010? Dating a "recovering" drug addict/stripper. I will never be so stupid again to believe that someone like her could ever actually care about anyone else but herself. I now recognize the personalities to stay away from. So, I do have to thank her for that.
I've started doing volunteer work with my fraternity, and I honestly love when we get to volunteer. I have so much fun, and even when we're doing something small, it makes me so incredibly happy. And we have fun bonding over things like making sandwiches to send to a homeless shelter or making cards to send to sick children in hospitals. I have found such good friends through my fraternity, and I cherish every one of them.
I feel like I've become more driven, despite not always showing it. Yes, sometimes the personal problems that appear in my life get in the way of me doing the things I want, but I always overcome those obstacles.
In short, I'm thankful for my family and friends who have stuck by me through everything that's happened, for becoming a more driven person and finally realizing exactly what I want to do career-wise and that I've been on the right track for several years, and for the girls who helped me realize what I don't want.
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